A Mom’s Open Letter To Those People Rudely Asking About Her Daughter’s Birthmark

Katie Crenshaw’s 6-month-old daughter Charlie is happy and healthy, so blogger Katie wrote an awesome open letter to the people who only ask about the birthmark on Charlie’s face.

Charlie was born with the mark, known as capillary hemangioma, and after constantly explaining to people that the mark would fade, Katie had had enough.

A day in the sixties. ☀️

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“We don’t need to talk about it every time you look at her,” wrote Katie.

“We see past the color of her face. It doesn’t need to be constantly commented on, critiqued, or questioned.”

“While I don’t mind educating curious minds, I don’t need your opinion on how it’ll progress or the effect it may have on her.”

Hey guys, got anything else I can chew on?

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“It’s part of her unique beauty. It may never disappear and guess what? It doesn’t have to.”

My sweet girl and her first visit to mama’s hometown. ❤️☀️

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“I encourage you to look past it. What if I came up to you and loudly asked ‘What’s wrong with your baby’s weird ____ ?’ Or, ‘I will pray for your child that her (genetically unusual quality) goes away.’”

“Just consider that. Consider that you are offering to pray away one of my daughter’s beautiful features that makes her who she is,” Katie writes on her blog twelve & six.

“Hold the pity. She’s a healthy baby girl and we are blessed. Her hemangioma is just as insignificant to who she is as a freckle on her arm. You don’t need to mention it, and you don’t need to wish it away.”

Happy Monday! I thought I would introduce myself since there are so many new faces around here! I’m Katie, wife to Tyler and mama to Grayson and Charlie Kate. We live in Georgia and I blog about our adventures over at twelveandsix.com! I try to share my journey with honesty and humor. ——————————————- • I grew up on an island and the coast will always feel the most like home. • I’m a (non working) certified birth doula. • I hate wearing pants. • I think stevia is gross. • I have an addiction to the ID channel. • I collect magnets from every new place I visit. • I could eat cereal or PB&J for every meal. • #JoannaGaines is my hero. ——————————————– I would love to hear your brief intro! If you blog, tell me where I can find you! 😘

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“She doesn’t have a ‘good side’ that we choose for family pictures. I don’t retouch her hemangioma in photos. Her entire face is my sweet Charlie, and it doesn’t matter what it looks like.”


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And now Katie’s message has gone viral, with people around the world reaching out to thank her for her powerful words

“I have received hundreds of beautiful messages from people who have grown up with large birthmarks on their face.”

“[They] say they owe their confidence and individuality to their difference and the way their parents responded to it.”

We think you’re beautiful just the way you are, Charlie.


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