I feel absolutely lost. Very few people know what I’m about to post. My two youngest children Millie (11) and Braiden (9) started at a new school – North Walney Primary School just over 12 months ago. Within a couple of weeks their education and childhoods were turned upside down by the school bully. He and his little gang threw Millie to the floor and then stood around her kicking her in the ribs. Upset, she removed her glasses to wipe her tears. The bullies’ response was to tell a younger child to stamp on her glasses – breaking them. From them until now, almost a year later, both have been subject to repeated verbal and physical assaults, certainly on a weekly if not almost daily basis. Last October, on their final day before going on holiday for two weeks, the bully stopped Braiden on the way to the shop after school. He told him because Braiden wasn’t going to be at school for two weeks he could “have extra,” and then set about brutally assaulting him – how do I know this, not only because my son told me this through his tears, but also because a random stranger enquired after him and confirmed the event.
Once again, as on previous occasions, I approached the school only to be told that it has nothing to do with them as it was outside the school (despite their own bullying policy saying otherwise), and their answer was to stop my child from going to the local shop.
I found out where the bully lived and approached the parents to ask them to ask their child to leave mine alone – instead I was met with a torrent of abuse. PC Greg told me he wasn’t interested in investigating the assault – instead he wanted to investigate me for wanting to challenge the parents.
Sadly the abuse continued. Within the next month Braiden had his arm broken and underwent surgery. On another occasion he was held in a crucifix position with his arms stretched out to the side, so another child could repeatedly punch him in the stomach. Millie has been kicked, punched, verbally abused, even drinks poured over her at the school party whilst wearing her party dress in order to humiliate her. Both have been so emotionally affected that I’m concerned Millie is on the verge of having an eating disorder. Braiden has been caught physically making himself sick to avoid going to school. Cumbria police say its a school issue despite some assaults taking place outside of school. North Walney Primary School’s response has been to punish the bully by phoning his parents – clearly an effective policy for 12 months.
So after 12 months with both North Walney Primary school not interested in protecting my children, Cumbria police not interested in protecting my children, my daughter was again assaulted. She didn’t tell us, the school did. It was reported by one of her classmates. When we asked her why she hadn’t reported it she said, “what’s the point?”
As a father I’ve been left devastated by all of this; watching their personalities change and their love for school diminish, watching the fear as my son was put to sleep to undergo surgery, and the lack of support from both Cumbria police and North Walney Primary school to effectively deal with this bully who not only bullies my children but also others within the school.
Finally, at the end of my tether, I approached the bully with my daughter. I will be honest – I told her to pin him up against the fence, knee him in the balls and tell him not to touch you again, sadly she didn’t, because she feared of repercussions from ‘his gang’. Instead it was left to me to challenge him. I told him straight to leave my kids alone or their would be consequences. I didn’t touch him, I certainly didn’t threaten him, although trust me how I didn’t do that either I don’t know. The result – I am now under investigation by the police, and at risk of losing my career. What an absolute joke. What options was I left with? As a father I have always taught my kids right from wrong, and yet no one in authority, both the school and the police have shown any desire to protect them! Following the incident I have withdrawn both from school for their own safety, and yet I have not received any contact from the school or the education authority to resolve the issues. Sadly, it appears the bullies have far more rights than the victims.
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