20 Mental Barriers That Everyone Needs To Let Go Of

mental barriersYou are in an imaginary hot air balloon. It’s just you and all of your belongings in the wicker basket. Something went wrong and you are losing altitude rapidly. You will hit the ground in less than ten minutes if you don’t come up with a quick solution.

The only immediate solution is to get rid of excess weight and throw off at least half of your belongings. It’s that or hit the ground in ten. You look at your things and hesitate for a few seconds, but then you do what you have to do and start tossing the things you have gathered throughout your life. The cargo gets lighter, the descent slows down, and then you are floating up again. You are relieved beyond comprehension.

This happens to all of us in less dramatic circumstances. We attach ourselves to things that we have accumulated over the years. Some of them might have some practical value. Some we have formed sentimental attachments to over time. Others are just clutter.

If you were in the hot air balloon situation, which of these mental barriers would you throw over the edge?

1. Let go of attachments

We attach ourselves to all sorts of things, even the most ridiculous notions in the universe. Are you attached to something? How strongly are you attached? Is it holding you back from something? Is it making you suffer? Look at it straight through — break the illusion. Know that every attachment can be detached.

2. Let go of guilt

Guilt has absolutely no function whatsoever. Think about it — what could guilt possibly resolve? It just holds you imprisoned to self-mortification and sorrow.

3. Let go of negative thinking

Pessimistic thoughts and negative attitudes keep you locked in a dark aura that permeates everything you do. It’s a dangerous line to follow. Know that thoughts influence the world around us.

4. Let go of self-criticism

Many times we are our own biggest critic. We criticize ourselves with the best of intentions, but we can take it too far. Criticism then turns to disempowering messages. Let go of it, and be kind and gentle to yourself.

5. Let go of prejudice

Prejudice keeps you bitter and resentful. It restricts your opportunities to connect meaningfully with others.

6. Let go of compulsive thinking

Do you keep on doing something just because you feel you have to do it without any apparent reason? It’s time to honestly reflect on its usefulness and its side effects.

7. Let go of the need for the approval of others

We often tend to seek approval from others. This is an attention-seeking behavior and one which threatens our self-confidence and authenticity.

8. Let go of limiting beliefs

Most of our limits are self-imposed. Life doesn’t have defined limits. Our beliefs do. Learn to identify those beliefs which narrow down your possibilities for action, and let go of them.

9. Let go of grudges

Let me put it this way — grudges are bad for your heart. Keep them long enough or numerous enough and your health will eventually suffer. Research shows the relationship between heart disease and emotions such as anger.

10. Let go of the ’I’ll do it tomorrow’ attitude

This is a delaying tactic of your subconscious saboteur trying to keep you from accomplishing important tasks. Try to be aware of it and consciously push yourself to do at least the first part of the task. Naturally, you will then continue the whole task because the hard part is only the beginning.

11. Let go of anxious thoughts

These are born out of our fear of the unknown and uncertainty about the future. The thought that something unpleasant may happen is only an unreal thought we have created ourselves. Ask yourself: Is this thought based on real evidence?

12. Let go of past heartbreaks

A heartbreak can take quite a long time to heal. Your heart is locked as your mind keeps on hovering over the same thought. The thing to realize with heartbreaks is that it is not the loss that makes you suffer but the idea that you create in your head about that loss.

13. Let go of bad memories

Sometimes we remember unpleasant things that stir up sad feelings in us. Bad memories make you relive those sad moments in the present. Keep them where they are — in the past.

14. Let go of useless things

We also attach ourselves to all sorts of things. Sometimes we clutter our life with useless objects. Let go of them and simplify your working and living environment.

15. Let go of bad company

If there are people around you that are insincere, harbor envy, are highly pessimistic, or disempowering, keep away from them.

16. Let go of the idea that you are a product of your past

One very common mistake we fall into is the belief that we are determined by our past experiences. This limits our view on future possibilities since we are stuck in believing that the future can only be more of the same as our past.

17. Let go of identifying yourself with your job/role

This is one of the risks of modern life. Since roles are always becoming more specialized we think that we are part of our roles. This makes us lose perspective of our true nature.

18. Let go of counterproductive habits

These are the repetitive patterns of behavior that obstruct or distract you from constructive and productive behavior. They can be anything from watching too much TV and overeating to self-destructive behavior such as drug abuse.

19. Let go of taking things too personally

Very often we are disturbed emotionally because we interpret people’s words and actions from a very subjective perspective. When we take things personally we get irritated, hurt, and disappointed. When we look at life from a more detached and objective point of view, we stay emotionally balanced and focused on our priorities.

20. Let go of the ticking clock

Time is one of our biggest sources of stress. Well, not time really, but our perception of it. Sometimes we are enslaved by the concept of time even in our moments of leisure. This has devoured a lot of our genuine freedom and space. Learning to spend moments without the constant awareness of time can be liberating and extremely productive.


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